Decision Making: Growth vs Fear Base

In my never ending quest of reinventing myself and evolving my blog, I thought I would talk about decision making. Especially since I’ve had a lot of life changes lately that involved this. You make decisions roughly based on two different things: growth and fear. Fear-based decisions are things you decide out of fear of the opposite of what you choose. While growth-based decision are typically the hard choices you make to advance yourself.

polzine_winter_landscape1Identify Decisions Made Out of Fear

In order to stop making fear-based decisions, you need to first identify situations or things that have been a result of fear. You have to be brutally honest with yourself and expose your weaknesses. And it’s not always easy to to digest. So what are the fears you may have made a certain decision:

  • Fear of change and the unknown.
  • Fear of judgement or rejection.
  • Fear of failure.
  • Fear of scarcity.

This can be anything like a toxic relationship or friendship. Why are you staying in this relationship? Is it because you are afraid of being alone? Is it because you’re afraid of putting yourself out there to meet new people? Or are you afraid you won’t find anything better? These are all fear based decisions. Versus leaving that relationship behind and finding something better for you, would be a growth based one. And that doesn’t just go for relationships, this can translate to careers or moving.

Changing from Fear-Based to Growth-Based

Once you’ve identified what you’re afraid of, you can start making decisions on growth. Because you can shift your mindset into framing everything in a way that will help your reality. It may seem overwhelming and isn’t something that happens right away. It takes practice. And working through those deep roots you’ve long neglected.

For example, back in November I had to make the ultimate decision on if I would stay with my roommate or leave a very toxic friendship after months and months of staying out of fear of change, rejection, and the unknown. But when I shifted my mindset, I got out noticing how toxic that environment was for me. And I’m not saying it was easy, but I’m so much better since deciding to do what was best for me.

Growth based decisions become your story. They make you who you are and are the stories you tell because they take you out of your hardship and lead you to something better. Because you’re not afraid anymore and you feel so much better about yourself.

Love ya,

Mae Polzine

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2 Comments

  1. February 22, 2018 / 4:49 PM

    I have implemented this into my life and it has made such a positive impact! Growth decisions are hard to make if you’re used to making fear decisions, but it is so so so worth it 🙂

    -Charlotte x
    myownblogofthoughts.blogspot.com

    • Mae Polzine
      Author
      February 22, 2018 / 8:05 PM

      Totally agree with you. It’s something I’ve only started doing recently but it’s been so worth it!

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